How to Write a Pet Obituary
Writing an obituary for your pet is one of the hardest and most meaningful things you can do after they are gone. It is not about being a good writer. It is about putting down, in your own words, who they were and what they meant. This guide walks you through it section by section, with examples and prompts to help when the words are not coming easily.
Why Writing an Obituary Helps
Grief is disorienting. In the days after losing a pet, the world feels wrong in ways that are hard to explain to people who have not been there. Writing about your pet is a way to anchor yourself. It forces you to think about who they were, not just the fact that they are gone.
An obituary is also a gift to the future. Right now you remember everything: the way they smelled, the sound of their breathing at night, the exact spot they liked to be scratched. Those details fade with time. Writing them down preserves them.
The Sections of a Good Pet Obituary
You do not need to include all of these. Pick the ones that feel right and skip the rest.
Opening
How to begin the obituary. Set the scene of how they entered your life.
Prompts to get started
- •When did [name] come into your life?
- •What was your first impression of them?
- •What were the circumstances of your meeting?
- •What drew you to them specifically?
Examples
[Name] came into our lives on a rainy Tuesday in 2015, a bundle of fur barely bigger than my hand. We had gone to the shelter "just to look," and left two hours later with a dog who had already claimed us.
[Name] was the runt of the litter, the one nobody else wanted. She fit in the palm of my hand and looked up at me like she already knew. That was fourteen years ago.
Who They Were
Capture their personality, quirks, and the things that made them uniquely themselves.
Prompts to get started
- •What was their most defining personality trait?
- •What made them different from every other pet you have known?
- •What would a stranger notice about them within five minutes?
- •What habit or quirk was so them that you cannot imagine the house without it?
Examples
[Name] was, in the most generous interpretation, a terrible guard dog. He greeted burglars and mail carriers with equal enthusiasm. But he knew when you were sad before you did, and he would press his whole body against your legs until you felt less alone.
[Name] had opinions. About everything. She would yell at you if dinner was late, yell at you if you closed a door she wanted open, and then curl up on your chest purring like nothing had happened. She was difficult, demanding, and the best thing in the room at all times.
Favorite Things
The small specific things they loved. Details make an obituary feel real.
Prompts to get started
- •What was their absolute favorite thing in the world?
- •Where was their favorite spot in the house?
- •What food would make them lose all dignity?
- •What activity or game did they love most?
- •Did they have a favorite person, toy, or routine?
Examples
[Name] lived for three things: cheese, the spot under the living room window where the sun hit at exactly 2pm, and my husband's lap. In that order.
Her favorite toy was a stuffed duck that she carried everywhere for eleven years. We replaced it twice. She always knew.
What They Meant to You
The impact they had on your life, your family, your daily world.
Prompts to get started
- •How did they change your life or your family?
- •What did they teach you?
- •What did daily life look like with them in it?
- •Who else will miss them, and why?
Examples
[Name] got me through a divorce, a cross-country move, and the worst year of my life. She did not care about any of it. She cared about walks and dinner and sleeping on my feet, and somehow that was exactly enough.
My kids grew up with [Name]. He was there for first days of school, bad dreams, homework meltdowns, and every family photo for twelve years. He was not a pet. He was a sibling, a confidant, a fixed point in a world that kept changing.
Closing
How to end the obituary. This is about legacy and love, not just goodbye.
Prompts to get started
- •What do you want people to remember about them?
- •What does the house feel like without them?
- •If you could say one last thing to them, what would it be?
- •How will you carry them forward?
Examples
[Name] died on March 3rd, at home, with her head in my lap and the sun coming through the window she loved. She was 14 years old and she was everything.
The house is quieter now. No tags jingling in the hallway, no thumping tail when the fridge opens, no warm weight at the foot of the bed. We are learning to live in the silence, but we are not ready for it yet.
Full Example Obituaries
Here are three complete obituaries at different lengths to show what a finished piece can look like.
Biscuit the Golden Retriever
mediumChairman Meow the Domestic Shorthair
shortRosie the Beagle
fullTips by Species
dogs
Dogs are often described as family members and best friends. Their obituaries tend to be warm, affectionate, and full of action. Dogs are defined by what they did: the walks, the greetings, the loyalty, the mess.
Focus areas:
- •Their daily routines and rituals with you
- •How they greeted you and showed love
- •Their relationship with each family member
- •Adventures and outings you shared
- •Their personality around other dogs or strangers
- •The specific way they comforted you
cats
Cat obituaries often have a wry, affectionate humor. Cats choose you, and that choice is the honor. Their obituaries celebrate independence, personality, and the quiet moments of connection that felt earned rather than given.
Focus areas:
- •How they chose their favorite person or spot
- •Their particular demands and preferences
- •The quiet moments of affection they allowed
- •Their hunting achievements (real or imagined)
- •Their relationship with the household hierarchy
- •The specific sound or gesture they used to communicate
Other Pets
Smaller or less conventional pets deserve the same depth of tribute. Their obituaries often surprise people who do not understand the bond. Focus on the personality that emerged within their species and the specific ways you connected.
Focus areas:
- •The personality traits that surprised you
- •How they recognized and responded to you
- •Their habitat and how they made it their own
- •The sounds, movements, or behaviors that were uniquely theirs
- •What drew you to this species in the first place
- •The daily care routine that became a ritual of love
Breed-Specific Obituary Guides
Every breed has its own personality, its own quirks, and its own way of being missed. These guides include breed-specific writing prompts, personality traits to mention, and a sample obituary.
Dogs
Cats
Create Their Memorial Page
Once you have written their obituary, give it a home. Create a free memorial on Pawrora with a star in the sky, a memorial page, and a guestbook where others can share their memories.
Create Free MemorialPet Obituary FAQs
- What should a pet obituary include?
- A good pet obituary includes how they came into your life, who they were as a personality, their favorite things, what they meant to you and your family, and a closing that honors their memory. You do not need to include all of these. Even a few sentences about who they were is enough.
- How long should a pet obituary be?
- There is no right length. A short obituary of 50 to 100 words can capture the essence of who they were. A medium one of 150 to 300 words gives room for stories and details. A full obituary of 300 to 500 words is the kind of piece you might read at a memorial gathering. Write what feels right.
- Should I share my pet's obituary publicly?
- That is entirely up to you. Many people find comfort in sharing because it invites others to respond with their own memories and words of support. Others prefer to keep it private, as a personal record of what their pet meant to them. Both are valid.
- Can I include the obituary in their memorial?
- Yes. If you create a memorial on Pawrora, you can use your obituary as the tribute text on their memorial page. Visitors will see it when they visit your pet's star and page.
- What if I can't find the words?
- Start with the small things. What did they do every morning? Where did they sleep? What noise did they make when they wanted attention? Specific details are the heart of a good obituary, and they are easier to write than grand statements. You can also use the writing prompts on this page to get started.